Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Oh We Ain't Got a Barrel of Money

With all the hype surrounding the royal birth of the as yet unnamed baby prince, I wish Prince William and Duchess Kate all the happiness in the world.  But my thoughts this week are on another little baby boy, born on July 16th.

While the new baby prince will be, well, treated like a prince, baby Isaac will never know his father, because his father died of brain cancer a few months ago. 

Brandon, Isaac’s daddy, was loved by many.  Our daughter knew him in high school, and our son-in-law knew him at college, so they had a lot of the same friends.

Last year, Son-in-law and Brandon ran in a good-time race they have every year up here in the Northwest called the Warrior Dash.  Participants run three miles, then go over and under cargo nets, huge walls, fire, and mud.
Before the race

This year, a crowd of friends gathered to honor Brandon at the Warrior Dash.  Our matching tee-shirts had Brandon’s picture from last year’s race on it, with “Team B” under it.  Team B for Brandon, but also because none of the runners considered themselves potential winners.

After the mud


After the slog through the mud and the resulting cheers, glasses of celebratory offerings were raised and we toasted Brandon.  Then we zoomed off to a backyard picnic at the home of some of the participants’ parents.


Sitting in the backyard, it was fun to scan down the 40 foot table at the horde of friends, laughing over the funny hats with horns that were issued at the race.  Children ran around picking raspberries, blueberries, shooting each other with squirt guns, swinging in swings suspended from grandpa’s apple trees, and stuffing themselves with hot dogs.  Grandparents clustered together and chatted, and young parents guffawed together and swung their children onto their shoulders.


So this is the society that baby Isaac will grow up in.  He WILL know his father, for so many loved him, and continue to do so.  Isaac will be swung up on the shoulders of “daddies”, he will swing among the trees with his “sisters and brothers” and be admonished to wash his hands by his “grandparents”.  In the backyards of many families, there will never be any of a daddy’s qualities missing, for they will be offered in abundance by friends who hold the princely treasures of a father’s love in their hearts, ready to offer up and pour out on this little boy as he grows up.

Team B?  Yes, B for Brandon, but I don't feel his friends are a second class team.  They are top-notch.  Winners.  Full of life and love and the gifts of friendship.  Royality.

There used to be a men’s chorus back in the 60’s led by a smiling, goatee-ed man named Mitch Miller.  We baby boomers loved to “sing along with Mitch” and the chorus.  A bouncing ball hit the words scrolling along the bottom of the TV screen, and families crooned in their living rooms in front of the black and white TV’s.  Ask any boomer if they remember this, and the answer will invariably be yes.  Not only that, they will probably burst into one of their favorite songs.

Here’s one of mine, and it makes me think of the good times and trials that surround any friendship.  I offer it up to Brandon:

Oh we ain’t got a barrel of money
Maybe we’re ragged and funny,
But we’re travelin’ along,
Singin’ a song,
Side by side.
Through all kinds of weather,
What if the sky should fall?
Just as long as we’re together,
It doesn’t matter at all.
Oh we ain’t got a barrel of money
Maybe we’re ragged and funny,
But we’re travelin’ along,
Singin’ a song,
Side by side.

Brandon on right






Friday, July 19, 2013

Do You Hev A Flag?

Right where we wanted to put a driveway stood a fire hydrant.  The driveway was for a detached garage for our little runabout boat.  Okay, the fire hydrant wasn’t smack in the middle, but it impeded our ability to back the boat into the garage, a difficult maneuver even when one has a driveway the size of an airport runway.  The only place for the detached garage where we’d have access from the road, was behind the fire hydrant.  The city said they’d move the fire hydrant but it would be a guh-jillion dollars.


Our neighbor had a suggestion.  At least for the purposes of this blog, it was a neighbor.  Hubby certainly would never think of such a nefarious plan.  Pay the garbage man a hundred bucks to run over it with his truck.  Then when the city came out to replace it, they’d find a driveway where it used to be.  It would have to be put 10 feet further west.

Of course, that never happened.  Besides, our garbage man couldn’t hit the side of a barn, much less a skinny little fire hydrant.  Even if we painted a big bull’s-eye on the corner of the driveway, he never puts the garbage can down where he finds it.  Instead, it is replaced right in the middle of our driveway where we nearly back the car over it every Wednesday morning.  At the last minute, we spot it and have to jump out and move it.  Our garbage man has a very funny sense of humor.

So hubby came up with a plan to help back the boat up into the garage.  He attached an orange flag to a long piece of pipe.  He inserts this in a slightly bigger pipe standing upright near the fire hydrant, and then when he is backing the boat in, he can see if he is going to hit the thing.


Flags seem to bear remarkable powers to save or conquer.  Eddie Izzard, a British comedian, commented that this was how empires of yore got to be so big.  The Brits or Christopher Columbus or some conqueror like Cortez would land in far flung foreign lands and proclaim, “I hereby claim this land for my mother county!”  The locals or natives would come rushing up and say, “You can’t do that.  We live here.”  “AHHHHH,” the conquerors would say, in a very upper crust accent, “But do you hev a flag?”  “A flag? What’s that?” ask the natives.  “No flag? Well, then,” the conquerors said.  “We hereby proclaim this land for our mother country.”  They’d plant a flag, and that would be that until unsavory rebellions yielded it otherwise.

Our daughter, the fifth grade teacher, lets her kids make sugar cube castles at winter break, formerly called Christmas vacation.  Because she has seen Eddie Izzard’s comedy sketch on flags, she asks them, twinkle in eye, “But do you hev a flag?” “A flag?” they ask.  “Yes! You must have a flag!” she warns, “Or anyone could come in and conquer you.”  She shows them pictures of Christopher Columbus coming ashore with his rowboat and planting a flag.

Flags promptly are colored and displayed from the topmost sugar cubes.  Often present to help during class parties and art activities, I find it interesting to see what they put on their flags. The school is in an area heavily populated by immigrants, and the children have seen many different flags.  At least twenty five flags from around the world bedeck the front hallway, welcoming all.

So what do the children put on their flags?  Some draw their own portraits.  Some put the flag from their native country on one turret and an American flag on another. Many of them put crosses, for no one would attack the cross of Jesus, they innocently tell me.  But every single one of them believes a flag more effective than a cannon.  If that’s all it takes, then God bless ‘em. 


Meanwhile, the fire hydrant flag has been pressed into service elsewhere.  The five little neighborhood girls, ages 12, 10, 9, 6 and 5, have discovered that we are babysitting the twin grandchildren this week.  Consequently, the doorbell rings every twenty minutes, which cause a nuclear explosion of barks from our cockapoo Huckleberry, whose first (and last) line of defense is hardly a flag, but rather the yappiest barks he can muster.  If the babies are napping, well, that nap is over.

So, the little girls are allowed to ring the doorbell only if the babies are awake and ready to receive company.  We took the fire hydrant flag and put it in a holder we have on our deck for tiki torches.  Only when the flag is flying may the girls come over. Flag goes up, within 30 seconds, the doorbell will ring.  But that’s okay, they are welcomed and needed.  Yesterday they came streaming through the door like a river of blond hair and eddied around the babies, bringing with them presents of toys and letters to the babies telling them how much they are loved and how cute they are. 

Both the babies wanted their bottles at the same time, so I parked them on the couch in the older girls’ arms and they got to feed them. 

The two littlest girls wanted something to love, so Huckleberry sufficed.

My husband laughs when I put the flag out and can’t resist saying “Do you hev a flag?” 

I sure do.  But I’m not the one doing the conquering.  The story ends differently this time.


Sunday, July 14, 2013

Faith in the Dream

A pregnant young woman I know, along with her husband and nearly two-year-old daughter, are journeying around the US this summer.  They started near their home in Gettysburg, PA and have driven through tornado warnings in Ohio, to the sparkling white faces of Mt. Rushmore, furry bison of Yellowstone, and finally to the young woman’s former home here in Washington state.  They visited Mt. Rainier National Park and stayed at the lodge up at Paradise, rode the duck boats in Lake Union, visited the Oregon Coast, spent time at Sunriver, Oregon with family.  Then they got to stay at John Muir’s paradise, Yosemite.  Following that, they saw the Grand Canyon and are currently on Rte. 66 heading back home. 

I think this is a laudable trip.  Even more so when one is 6-7 months pregnant with the hopes of a new life to carry on in this world.  She blogs about her trip and says they’ve met some very nice folks.  America, from sea to shining sea.

In the newspaper today, there was a story about another couple that took a journey across the US from Key West to Deadhorse, Alaska.  Along the way, they noticed the diversity of color in America.  In Nebraska, a Sudanese girl and a white child turned a jump rope for a mix of children.  A former Mexican ran a bakery and restaurant in the heart of the Midwest.  Gosh, I remember how homesick I was for Mexican food when we moved from San Diego to Chicago in 1967.  There was no such thing as a tortilla or even a jar of salsa in any grocery store.  Now?   Pho noodle shops and Halal meat shops.  Immigrants are pouring in, in record numbers. 

George Zimmerman was just acquitted yesterday of killing an unarmed black teenager.  Why would anyone want to come here, since America is so rife with racism?  But they do.  Spending vast amounts of money for plane tickets, or risking life and limb to get here illegally.  


Coming to America costs more than a plane ticket or a trip across the Rio Grande.  It means to have faith in a dream.  For an immigrant, it is a hope of a better life.  For those of us already here, we might have faith in a dream of equality, of justice, of overcoming prejudices based on race, age, sex, or any sort of preferences.  Justice should be served, and we must rethink the laws that would allow someone to aggravate a fight, then kill the person reacting.  I can legally walk into a bar, pick a fight with someone and then shoot them dead when they swing at me.  LEGALLY.  Self defense, your honor, just like George Zimmerman. I am terribly sorry that Trayvon Martin’s parents are grieving over their son.  What a unfathomable loss. 

So right now we need faith.  Faith that begats hope, a faith that sings to us when the night is blinding, a faith which puts wings on ideas of brotherhood and opportunity. 

Mustard Seed


The mission of America, the time worn American Dream, will carry on through this, working steadily toward the mountain of freedom.  So today, I invite you to revisit that great speech of a noble American, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.  Go ahead, take the time to read this last bit I’ve excerpted.  Your tomorrows might just be that much grander for the match light of faith it strikes.

…I have a dream that one day even the state of Mississippi, a state sweltering with the heat of injustice, sweltering with the heat of oppression, will be transformed into an oasis of freedom and justice.

I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.

I have a dream today.

I have a dream that one day, down in Alabama, with its vicious racists, with its governor having his lips dripping with the words of interposition and nullification; one day right there in Alabama, little black boys and black girls will be able to join hands with little white boys and white girls as sisters and brothers.

I have a dream today.

I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made plain, and the crooked places will be made straight, and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed, and all flesh shall see it together.

This is our hope. This is the faith that I go back to the South with. With this faith we will be able to hew out of the mountain of despair a stone of hope. With this faith we will be able to transform the jangling discords of our nation into a beautiful symphony of brotherhood. With this faith we will be able to work together, to pray together, to struggle together, to go to jail together, to stand up for freedom together, knowing that we will be free one day.

This will be the day when all of God's children will be able to sing with a new meaning, "My country, 'tis of thee, sweet land of liberty, of thee I sing. Land where my fathers died, land of the pilgrim's pride, from every mountainside, let freedom ring."

And if America is to be a great nation this must become true. So let freedom ring from the prodigious hilltops of New Hampshire. Let freedom ring from the mighty mountains of New York. Let freedom ring from the heightening Alleghenies of Pennsylvania!

Let freedom ring from the snowcapped Rockies of Colorado!
Let freedom ring from the curvaceous slopes of California!
But not only that; let freedom ring from Stone Mountain of Georgia!
Let freedom ring from Lookout Mountain of Tennessee!
Let freedom ring from every hill and molehill of Mississippi. From every mountainside, let freedom ring.

And when this happens, when we allow freedom to ring, when we let it ring from every village and every hamlet, from every state and every city, we will be able to speed up that day when all of God's children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics, will be able to join hands and sing in the words of the old Negro spiritual, "Free at last! free at last! thank God Almighty, we are free at last!"



Tuesday, July 9, 2013

The Fairy Door

Someone gave me a bag of slightly yellowed lace.  Supposedly, soaking old lace in OxyClean would make it come white again, which I tried.  Some pieces of it came white, but some did not.  I rinsed it and laid it over a deck chair to dry in the sun.  The breeze along Puget Sound was making lacy white caps of its own, showing off.  The lace dried in the breeze, but shorter lengths of it got blown across the deck and dirtied again.  I had to go chasing after it before it fell into the vegetable beds.  I guess I found it all.  Perhaps that is when I should have looked in the apple trees.

On our property we’ve got two knarly apple trees.  Years ago in a flight of whimsy, I put a greenman face in each. 
One is a kingly sort, with leaves curling around his jolly face.  He’s in the smaller of the trees, up front and low enough so any child can spot him right off.  The enchantress is in the bigger of the trees, up high and off to one side so it takes a bit of looking to find her.  Upon spotting her, the realization hits that she has been looking at you for some time.

Summer is wonderful time for taking a turn around the garden at twilight, enjoying the roses, seeing if the blueberries are ripe yet, wondering why we’ve had so many tiny green apples blow out of the bigger apple tree.  Moss so covers the limbs that ferns have grown along the branches.  The trees are pretty old.  The biggest has a gigantic canopy of cool shade. 

As you may know from previous posts, one must garden for children’s imaginations ‘round here, including big rocks to sit on for tea parties, stumps to transport the wisher to a different world, and dry streambeds in which to find crystally magic rocks.  So when Daughter With The Twins suggested the apples trees would be just the place for a fairy door or a fairy window, it didn’t take long for them to appear.

I found the fairy window and door so impossibly enchanting, that I called the little girls from next door to come over.  Little did I know what was to become of it. 

“Look,” I called, “see what happened in our tree!”

I showed them the window first. 

“How did you get fairies to come?” they asked.

“I put the greenmen faces on the trees, and then they knew that this yard was friendly to fairies.”

The girls decided to ask their parents to put up such faces in their trees, but then they got worried that their own trees were not knarly enough. Do you have to have mossy trees, they wondered.  I confessed I did not know the rules of fairyland.

When I took them down to the bigger apple tree, they spotted the fairy door immediately.  They peered in the window. 
“See those lace curtains?” I asked.  “I had some lace drying on the deck up there, and some of it blew away.  I see the fairies found it and used it as curtains.”

The girls peered in and there was no denying that there was my lace inside a little glass window, neatly sewn into curtains. They gaped in amazement.


How do these things come tumbling out of my mouth? 

“Not only that,” I went on, “but they took a lot of it.  I bet they've got a bedroom up here (tap, tap on the trunk).  They probably used some for a bedspread.  I wouldn’t be surprised if next week they build a tower up there.”  I pointed at one of the higher branches.

The older girls studied the tree.  “Look!  Doesn’t that look like a bridge?”

It sure did.  It was a branch left over from pruning that somehow got caught in one of the branches.

The littlest girl gently knocked on the door. 

“The door is locked,” said the older one.  “See the keyhole?” 

“Do you think they are home?” asked the little one.  They both took a turn peering in the window.  She cocked her ear and listened.  Just then, a little green apple fell out of the tree and their eyes got wide.

The girls nodded.  “How many children do they have?” they asked. 

“Five.  A boy, then three girls, then a baby boy at the end.”

“What are their names?”

Whew.  Stretching myself here.  Our German relatives with three little girls under age nine are flying over to visit next month, so it would be nice to have some Germanic names.  German is a hard language to name fairies in, in spite of the Teutonic penchant for worshiping trees.  Leaf is blatt, star is stern.  We couldn’t have fairies named Blatt and Stern.  I decided to have some English and some German.


“The father is Flitter.  He makes pumpkins turn orange.  The mother is Wispa and paints with frost.  The eldest son is Glitzern, and as you know is learning how to make apples green. I suspect he is not doing very well at it, look at how many he has knocked down.”

The girls looked at the ground.  Perhaps twenty-five little apples lay around their feet.  They nodded.

“Then they have three girls, Sonnig, Luna, and Starlit.  Sonnig is going to school to learn how to color blueberries.  If you’ve looked at my blueberries lately, she keeps getting too much purple and misses some spots that are still green.  Luna wants to paint roses, but is not old enough, and Starlit is so young she doesn’t know yet what she wants to do.  The baby is a boy named Donner, but they call him Dondi.  He’s very sweet and tiny.  They feed him milk from dandelions.”

The girls wanted the fairies to come out, but I told them that the fairies might be sitting up in the tree branches right this minute watching them.  To my great glee, dragonfly buzzed by.  The girls heard its wings but did not see it.

“Let’s go home and write them a letter,” said the girls.

An hour later they were back, with a tiny little note saying: “Dear fairies, WELCOME.  We want you to stay. –Madeline.”  They brought over some tiny doll clothes and left them on the fairies’ porch.  They put some very fine glitter on their note, which came off on the porch and lends an air of authenticity, in my opinion.

Well of course, the fairies had to leave a thank you note, so birch bark was obtained, and using a calligraphy pen, the mother fairy Wispa wrote back to thank the girls for the clothes and note.  She said that the clothes fit Luna perfectly.

Later that day, my doorbell rang again.  The girls found the birch bark note, rolled up like a scroll and tied with pink and purple embroidery floss (I must lock my sewing room).  Squeals and jumping up and down ensued.

Madeline got down and peered in the window.  “They used glue to put their window in,” she said.

“Well, I suppose they had to stick it in somehow,” I replied.

“I bet they used slug mucus for glue,” said Madeline.

I laughed.  “Probably.  Look at these tiny little nails they used to make their porch.”  I quietly knew that those naughty fairies have been in Hubby’s shop using the nail gun.  

"I've been thinking about Starlit, the littlest girl who doesn't know what she wants to do yet.  I think she should put dewdrops on spiderwebs."

Who knew that right next door lived a future novelist?

Towards dinner, my doorbell rang.  The girls wanted to show me the note they left in a tree in their yard, inviting the fairies to make a house there.  They put out building materials by their pond, including leaves and day lilies, and a lot of doll clothing.

Later, after the girls got back from swim lessons: ding-dong.  Hubby answered as I was watching TV.  The girls came dancing in to show me the gifts the fairies had left them, and the building material was GONE.  Their gifts were a tiny key that fit their keyhole, a metal bug, an acorn charm, a piece of rabbit fur tied up with blue beads and a red ribbon, and finally some of the lace “they probably had left over from making the curtains and bedspread.”

The girls wanted to go back out to the apple tree one last time.  It was twilight, and they knocked on the little door.  Huckleberry the dog sat with us as we chatted around the door discussing what fairies might like and how little girls could entice them to come live next door.


If you ask me, I think two little blond fairies already live next door.

Friday, July 5, 2013

Why Don’t We Say Independence Day Anymore?

Most people call our national holiday “The Fourth of July”.  What happened to calling it Independence Day?  Same number of syllables.

Perhaps it reminds us of a war with the country that is now arguably our very best ally.  Independence Day was then, when we hated Britain. The Fourth of July is now, when we just love them.  Odd that the English are always the bad guys or befuddled bumblers in films though.  When are we going to stop THAT?

My husband said people call it The Fourth of July because then we won’t forget when it is. 

As if.  Do we forget when Halloween is? 

Oh wait.  Why is he laughing?

I spend a lot of July 4ths in Canada, serving as a cook aboard the Sea Scout ship Odyssey.  One July 4th some happy Canadians kayaked past us and asked us if we were enjoying our visit.  I mentioned that it was The Fourth of July for us, and they announced it was The Fourth of July for them too.  Really? 
Oh, wait.  Obviously, we meant different things.  Did I mention I was a befuddled bumbling English-American?

The real reason few people use the term Independence Day is that no one can spell it.  Is it Independ-A-nce or Independ-E-nce?


I’m still not sure.  And my spell check is taking a holiday.  Or wait, that's what the Brits say.  Guess I'll have to say "vacation."